Image by: @thesweetfeminist The other day I dreamt I was embracing a good friend. We were laughing and I could feel their warm cheek on my face. I was blushing. I woke up feeling so happy and grateful to experience such uplifting relations both in the dream world and in my waking life. I’ve always valued friendships, but this wasn’t always reciprocated. I don’t know about you, but friend heartbreak is harder for me than romantic heartbreak. I've learned that romance feels great, but it isn't strong enough to be the foundation for a genuine relationship We live in a society that is constantly selling us the idea that heteronormative monogamous relationships should be our main source of love. This is so twisted, unrealistic and untrue. Every year around Valentine's Day I like to read bell hooks, “All About Love” and in this book she defines love as "a combinations of trust, commitment, care, respect, knowledge and responsibility". Every week I like to check in with myself and I offer the questions: what did I give? & what did I receive? Sometimes I get more than what I give and sometimes I give more than I receive, but most weeks it's balanced. Love is learning and unlearning parts of yourself as well as others. I invite you to check in with your energetic investments. Who are you forgetting about? Who do you take for granted? Who do you owe a phone call or a hug? And if you find yourself in the Los Angeles area, please come out and support the 10 Minute Play Festival at Teatro Frida Kahlo running Feb 1st-17th. I get so share two beautiful pieces about friendship in the festival with some fabulous femmes. My wish for you is summed up in the words of Nayiraa Waheed: "May love find you even when you are specifically, strategically, hiding from it". Image from Xicanas In Xicanalandia by Shanelle Garcia running Feb 1-17th at Teatro Frida Kahlo Image from Fluffy Homegirls by Elvia Susana Rubalcava running Feb 1-17th at Teatro Frida Kahlo
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